Don’t get us wrong. The aim of this article is not to highlight gender inequality, provoke feminists or put men down in any way; it is simply to spread awareness about what women go through in everyday life (which all of us are aware of, but take for granted because of our “Chalta Hai” attitude).
Disclaimer: Some points may be generalisations, but we’re talking about masses at large.
Whether it’s walking down the station, looking for rickshaws or standing in a queue, it is not uncommon for women to hear comments such as “Aye Jeans Pant” and “Kya Maal Hai”.
Oh wait! This one’s next level, “Chalti Kya Khopche Mein, Tereko Jannat Dikhata Hoon”… Really?
2) SHAADI VAADI AND ALL THAT
If you’re a young, unmarried woman in India there’s no way you can escape the “Shaadi Ka Ladoo.”
“Beta, shaadi ka kya socha hai?”
“Ladka MBA hai, NRI hai, aise ladke baar baar nahi milte.”
“Ek baar photo toh dekh lo.”
“Achha, ek baar mil toh lo.”
Give us a break! We know you mean well, but have you heard of a concept called “personal choice”? Yes, let us exercise that!
And if you’re 30+ and still unmarried, it’s a sin for you to exist! #WeFeelYouBro
3) THE DRESS CODE COMPLEX
Spending hours deciding what to wear while travelling; if you decide to wear something that’s modestly revealing you’ll have to keep handy a secondary wardrobe consisting of shrugs, stoles, scarves, leggings and more…Because every time you travel by public transport your arms, legs and chest need to be covered.
Technically, shorts and skirts are not much of an option even in the scorching heat, thanks to the incessant leching and ogling!
4) JO DIKHEGA, WOH BIKEGA
Be it films, TV shows, advertisements or pornography, Indian pop culture often depicts the woman as an object to satisfy mans desires. No, she is not “Munni Badnaam” or “Chikni Chameli” and she sure as hell is not “Tandoori Murgi,” so stop treating her like one!
Repeated exposure to objectification of women creates unrealistic expectations that could eventually lead to irrational behaviours.
5) LADY PARADOX: WHO WEARS THE PANTS?
If she earns more than the man, it comes onto his ego, if she earns less, she doesn’t have a say in financial decisions.
If she wears too much, she’s a ‘Behenji’ but if she wears too little she’s a ‘Slut.’
If she’s a homemaker, she’s not ambitious, if she’s working, she doesn’t care enough about her home and kids.
She just feels helpless, because no matter what she does, she is misinterpreted.
6) GENDER JOB BIASES
Army. Police. Politics. Cricket.
A common response to women wanting to join male dominated fields is
“Are you crazy?”
Why the bias? We women don’t say anything even though the world’s best master chefs are men! 😛
Women = Kitchen. Women = Weaker Sex. Women = Not-so-good-bosses. So not true!
Women are type casted into certain roles, but hey, it’s subconscious societal conditioning, so we don’t really blame you.
But we do blame you if you choose to continue doing so, now that you’re more aware of it!
8) BEING IN CROWDED PLACES
Be it a local station or a concert, crowded areas are a nightmare for women. If they emerge out of a crowd without being groped or touched inappropriately, it’s VICTORY!
Tip: Walk with your elbows spread outward to the sides to keep away the creeps from touching. Hold a bag to cover yourself in the front/back. 😛
9) SAFETY FIRST: RETURNING HOME AT NIGHT
Its dark, its late. If you’re a woman who doesn’t drive you’re probably a victim of the ‘Midnight Dilemma.’ You do one of the following:
- Call up your guy best friend and ask him to pick you up/ drop you
- Constantly stay in touch with your boyfriend via call/message
- You cab it up and pay a bomb (because of night charge)
- Decide to stay back at a friends place
- You end up not going at all
Ted Mosby was probably right, nothing good happens after 2.00 a.m.! 😛
10) BEAUTY AND THE BEST
This one is technically a choice, but its still a struggle. Being a girl comes with its own baggage. Clothes, shoes, make-up, hair, accessories, waxing, threading, tampons and more…
Sometimes its not diamonds but a mirror that is a girl’s best friend!
11) PERIOD TABOO
When women are menstruating they transform from ‘The Unstoppable’ to ‘The Untouchables.’ Pickles, temples, Tulsi plants and their boyfriends all seem to shun them!
Hey, it’s only a natural process; get over it!
Despite all these struggles the Indian woman puts up a tough fight in the face of everyday crises. This one’s our little way of saying HATS OFF LADIES!